“Refuel, Reflect, and Rise”
Since summer is on the downhill swing, it means that it is time to get clothes ready for school…
“Happy 4th of July”
Let freedom ring—not just across the country, but in our hearts, in our choices, and in how we treat one another.
“The Fortune Is Already Within You”
I know what you’re thinking…what can a fortune cookie possibly tell us about ourselves? Well, I’m glad you asked…
“Father Figures & Role Models: A Day for the Men Who Show Up”
To all the fathers on Father’s Day, I want to say thank you for all the things you do for your families…
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“Dare to Dream: Finding the Career That Fits You”
Now that summer is almost upon us, many of you may be scrambling to decide what career you would like to get into…
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“Summer Kickoff: Laughs, Lyrics, and Local Adventures”
Vacations. We all need them. We all want to take one. But sometimes the funds are hard to come by…
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“Honoring Heroes, Embracing Summer “
So, while we typically celebrate this holiday with cook-outs, trips on the water, and other experiences, let us always pay tribute to those whose lives were given to give us our freedom…
“From Checked Out to Dialed In: Ending the Year with Purpose”
By not “finishing strong,” you cheat yourself out of developing self-discipline to help get you through situations that may not be fun or beneficial….
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Mum’s the Word: Honoring the Many Faces of Motherhood
What I wish for you this Mother’s Day is that you know you don’t have to spend money on your mother to make her happy…
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“Part II: Breathe Easy, RISERS: Conquer Procrastination and Celebrate Your Wins!”
First, we must uncover the reasons behind waiting until the last minute to do things. I sometimes relate all too well to the joke above, especially when it comes to writing novels…
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“Breathe Easy, RISERS: Conquer Procrastination and Celebrate Your Wins!”
I am sure by now you have picked up on today’s theme–procrastination. It’s possible that I have talked about this before, but I get blog ideas from what happens in my life during the week. So, let’s jump in, shall we…
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“Tackling Tests with Positivity and Wisdom”
There are many things to take into consideration when preparing for tests…nutrition, adequate rest, time management, and preparation. Let’s look at these a bit further…
“Power and Purpose of Clear Communication.”
There are five C’s that are needed to get understandable communication across. They are clarity, conciseness, coherence, completeness, and courtesy…
“Finding Joy in the Unexpected and Beauty in Everyday Moments”
When I mention unexpected things, we sometimes groan in frustration and think, “I don’t have time for this!”. But not all unexpected things come with negative consequences…
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“Community Meets Compassion: Celebrating Nonprofits”
Just like how we talked about finding the perfect place to volunteer your time, talent, and money last week, nonprofit organizations need the same consideration…
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“Rise and Give: Empowering Youth and Families to Spread Kindness, Find Purpose, and Change Lives.”
I’m sure you have noticed the theme for this week…giving. Not only with money but also with yourself. I have always said the world needs your kind of you…
“Celebrating Relationships, Respect, and Personal Growth”
Happy Friday, RISERS! I hope this week has been good to you. Here we are–the last day of February. How is that even possible? Just a reminder, we are getting closer to the Spring Forward time change next weekend. More on that next week. But for now, be sure to get a glimpse of the night skies for the planetary
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“Celebrating Life, Love, and Moments That Matter.”
We need to be intentional in demonstrating how much people mean to us…
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“From Winter Blues to Bright Horizons”
Whether it’s the weather or circumstances that cause you to feel depressed, there are things you can do to change your mood…
“Calm and Collected: Your Essential Guide to Handling Car Accidents”
Happy Friday, RISERS! I hope this week has been good to you. We have come to the end of the first month of 2025. I hope your January was a little calmer than mine. In addition to all the other things that have happened this month, I was involved in a car accident on Monday. I
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Embrace the Journey – Celebrate the Moments!
To keep with the joke theme of books, my recharge tip for you this week is to spend time lounging around with your face in your favorite book…
Reflections and Resolutions as We Rise Together
To all of you who are faithful to support and read the blog for RiseUP Cooperative, thank you for having a heart for teens and the other precious ones who are supported, encouraged, and strengthened by this nonprofit organization.
Christmas List or Christmas Lift?
Instead of tackling those intense to-do items alone, enlist the help of a friend or family member so that you can make memories of doing those things together.
Pinecones, Presents, and The Polar Express
My family has always enjoyed doing crafts over the holidays, especially when we were foster parents, and one thing that we do for Christmas is incorporate things from nature in our home decor.
Making the Holidays a Bit Sweeter
When I worked in preschool, one of the things I enjoyed was making a Christmas ornament for all of the children’s families.
Holiday Tip: If You’re Happy, They’ll Be Happy
I heard a statement on the radio about someone dreading Thanksgiving because they got so stressed over getting everything cleaned up for the day/meal that they didn’t really enjoy Thanksgiving itself. My advice is this…
Cultivating Gratitude
To everyone who has served our country in the Armed Forces, thank you for giving your time, often away from your family, to help keep the United States strong and free.
The Day After, Then the Morning Before…
Here we are at All Saints Day and the first weekend of November. Don’t forget about the time change as we “fall back” during the wee hours of Sunday morning.
Take a Little Time to Breathe…
Socialization and activities are great and all, but you do need to set aside time on your schedule for just yourself…no appointments, no distractions, just a bit of time for a breather.
What The World Needs Now
I know it sometimes feels that the world is too big and that what you can do wouldn’t make a difference, but you’re wrong. You are exactly what people need.
An Ounce of Prevention…
When my husband and I were foster parents, we had to have an emergency plan on our refrigerator so that all of our kids (including the bonus children) knew where to meet in the event of a fire, severe storm, flood, or other crisis.
Safety Precautions During Storm Season
The recent deaths and regional devastation caused by flash-flooding in the wake of Hurricane Helene is a reminder that we all need to take extra precautions during hurricane season.
Rhythms of Romantic Relationships
Some days you no doubt have the stars in your eyes when you look at your significant other, while on other days you may wonder, “What in the world was I thinking?”
Ultimately, You Get the Final Say
If you have sought counsel, evaluated all of your options, and made a choice, then hold tight and trust that you are where you should be.
Expressing Love Through Gift-Giving
This week, I want to give a shout-out to all of the folks who do their best to make their loved ones happy when gift-giving.
Protect Your Productivity by Learning to Relax
I believe that classical music, especially that of Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, is some of the most chill music ever.
How to Tackle the Dreaded Homework
Your “homework” this week is to find a fabulous recipe and drop it in the comments at the end of the blog for me to post next time.
Ways to More Easily Ask Your Questions
Happy Friday, RISERS! I hope this week has been good to you. We have made it through the first full week of school here in Knoxville, and we are supposed to have a back-to-school dance next week. Can you believe it? I hope you aren’t overloaded with homework already, but if you are, you can
Strategies for Back-to-School Success
A smile can ease the anxiety of someone else who may be just as nervous as you. It can also help you start a conversation with others and see what you might have in common.
Teen Workshop: Journaling
This workshop demonstrated how journaling can be a beneficial tool in students’ daily lives to relieve stress, make themselves feel better, or even just keep track of their thoughts.
Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body
Simone Biles, the most decorated gymnast in history, shares something in common with many of you. She and her siblings were in foster care until she was 5 years old.
It’s Time for Tax-Free Shopping!
We have made it to the last weekend of July…and that means Tennessee’s tax-free weekend!
Journaling for Better Mental Health
Journals are considered an autobiographical accounting of our lives.
“Milk” Every Moment
I want to remind you that early voting is taking place July 12-27 throughout Tennessee, in advance of the August 1 elections.
Make Time for Your Favorite Hobbies
Besides giving us a healthy source of food, gardening is a great way to relieve stress.
In Persistent Pursuit of a Goal
Persistence is continued effort, usually in the face of obstacles, to achieve a goal.
Families, Flags, and Fireworks
This week, I want to give a shout-out to all who honor freedom here in the United States.
Sailing Through Another Summer…
We have survived the longest day of the year, summer solstice, which marks the official first day of the season. But from a school standpoint, we are quickly approaching the midpoint of summer vacation!
Make Sunday About the Father in Your Life
Did you know that dads want to be honored and appreciated, just as much as moms? Okay, maybe not with flowers and jewelry, but they do wish to be doted on in other ways.
Let Folks Know They Are Valued and Needed
With summer vacation now in full swing, many of you may wonder how to fill that empty time in your day. Well, I have just the thing.
Graduation—a Milestone Moment
High school graduates, you’ve made it through 13 years of education and are now ready for the next step.
Take a Long View When Looking at Failure
It is easy to let negativity overwhelm you, but I encourage you instead to change your thought process and keep moving.
Test-Taking Strategies for Success
Sometimes we get so bogged down with the weight of having to make a decision that we forget how to wisely make these decisions.
When Uncle Sam Asks You to Pay Up
Now that we have gotten past the solar eclipse hysteria, we are headed to the halfway point of April: Tax Day!
Don’t Let Fun Eclipse Safety at Your Viewing Party
This week, I want to give a shout-out to everyone who studies the stars and other heavenly bodies in order to teach the world of their wonders and how to stay safe.
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Being a Big Fish in a Little Sea
If we keep ourselves in an enclosed environment, we will never know our true capabilities.
Don’t Despair “in the Middle of the Ride”
When you feel you are hitting your limit, step back and take a break.
Lookin’ for a Bright, Sunshiny Day
Sometimes we are so overwhelmed with the “storms” in life that we forget about the silver linings.
Remember Life’s Secret Ingredient
The best way to change your reaction to any situation is to keep a positive attitude.
Follow Your Instincts
If your circumstances allow for calm reflection, be sure to use logic to balance out the instinct and make sound decisions. Instinct is meant to be a tool.
Ready to Socialize!
It was as if they realized that they were all connected, worked as a team, and found a sense of belonging. Happy Friday, RISERS! I hope this week has been good to you. Happy first weekend of 2024! I started this new year by returning to a familiar job: special education teaching assistant. Though I
Starting 2024 With a Positive Outlook
This coming year, as the slate becomes brand new, I’ve resolved not to make any pesky New Year’s resolutions.
Holiday Hype and Actual Christmas
When things go counter to what you want or expect, just inhale slowly and don’t take it to heart.
A Weight Lifted Off My Shoulders
If you are feeling anxious or like your emotions are a bit scrambled, try sleeping under a weighted blanket.
Tips for Surviving Holiday Stress
Consider shopping at times that are not as crowded to avoid extra frustration. Getting worked up and irritated when purchasing gifts for your loved ones is not a good thing.
First Day of the Last Month of 2023
We always asked our next-door neighbor, Nancy, to judge our competition for the best-decorated gingerbread man. She was a softie and gave everyone a prize, which made it even more fun.
The Reality of Holiday Ups and Downs
While Thanksgiving is a time to recall the good things we have experienced over the past year, we can’t help also remembering what was lost.
Dealing With Divorce in the Family
Remember that you have the right to feel all of the emotions you are experiencing.
A Tribute to American War Veterans
If you know any veterans, please thank them for their sacrifice. You will be surprised how saying “thank you” can make a difference.
Embrace Whatever Makes You Who You Are
Don’t worry about the one person who tells you that you are different. Mesh with the people who accept you for who you are.
Building Resilient Tennesseans
Resilience can be defined as the action and outcome of successfully dealing with and adapting to difficult life experiences.
Marking the End of a Life
Keep in mind that you must let yourself embrace whatever emotions the loss brings out in you.
Directions to Our Destination
We have become so dependent on our technology that we often don’t keep traditional maps in our vehicles anymore.
Getting What You Want From Your Money
Our oldest son thought that just because we had checks in the checkbook, we had money.
It’s About Time
The beauty of a schedule is that it allows you to tell your time what to do instead of the other way around.
In Pursuit of Work/Life Balance
Being conscientious in your work is great, but don’t do it at the expense of your health.
Different Levels of Friendship
Humans are designed to want to fit in, to belong somewhere, and to have people care about them.
A Different View of Boundaries
What is it about boundaries that often causes friction or discomfort in daily life?
The Importance of Labor (and Rest)
Although work situations are much different now, it is still easy for people to fall into working way too many hours and still feel as if they are not free.
It’s Football Time in Tennessee!
Whether you set up the grill or order your favorite takeout, just being with family or friends to cheer on your teams is what football season memories are made of.
Coping with Stress
When it came time to apply to colleges and take the ACT, I found myself battling anxiety as I began to prepare myself for the next chapter of my education.
Before Disaster Strikes, Be Prepared!
Dangerous weather can appear suddenly, so you need to have a plan.
Crying, Core Memories, and Children in Care
When children from hard places forget their “core memories,” they forget a bit of themselves.
Learning to Say “No”
It’s more important to be able to stand up for yourself and your time than to always bend to other people’s will.
Back to School for Foster Children
It makes sense that most children in custody will be extremely nervous upon starting a new school year, particularly if they must change schools.
Thoughts on Gladness and Grief
Grief never entirely goes away. Let yourself feel how you feel, and don’t try to minimize it.
Ways to Develop a Winning Attitude
I have found it much easier to work with someone who may not have advanced skills but who has a positive attitude than to work with a highly skilled person who has a poor attitude.
Finding Your Resonance
I believe that every person is like an instrument: our bodies are tuned to a frequency that we can hear only occasionally, and we need to follow it to discover what truly fits who we are.
How to Express Your Worthwhile Ideas
When you are working with a group of people and have good ideas, know when to press forward to make sure you’re heard.
When to Save Yourself: Cutting Toxicity Out of Your Life
The first person I cut out of my life was very important to me, and I still think about them to this day. But no matter how I frame it, I know that cutting that person out of my life was the best thing I could have done for myself.
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Making the World a More Positive Place
As a writer, I sometimes get my inspiration from unexpected places. For the next few weeks, I will share what was written on the paper slips inside the last four fortune cookies I opened while enjoying Chinese food.
Are You That Guy?
Like many others fresh out of high school or college, you may find yourself asking, “Where do I go from here?”
Showing Appreciation for Fathers
Whatever you do with the fathers in your life this weekend, I hope you will let them know how much you appreciate the little things they do.
There’s No “I” in “Team”
When working together on a project, some team members may have largely similar skills, which helps to get certain tasks done much faster. By contrast, a team whose members have very different personalities and skills can often accomplish a wider variety of projects.
How to Cut Down on Sibling Arguments
We are talking this week about responsibilities—specifically, jobs your children can assist with around the house during the summer.
How to Find Your Future
Life is a journey, not a destination, so don’t be afraid to course-correct when necessary.
How to Brighten a Child’s Dull Summer
Many children become disconnected over the long break, which makes them very lonely.
Why Mothers Make Such a Difference
You don’t have to spend money to give us moms a nice Mother’s Day.
What to Do If You’re Dreading Summer Vacation
Now that we are one week into the month of May, summer vacation looms ever closer. From now until the end of school, be sure you tell the teachers in your (or your child’s) life how much you appreciate them.
Countdown to Summer Vacation
For the last eight months, we as parents have made lunches, assisted with homework, chaperoned field trips, volunteered in classrooms, and encouraged our children’s teachers. … It’s time to give ourselves a pat on the back.
Handling the Pressure of Academic Pursuits
When it comes to your courses in school, if you are doing your best, don’t let others make you feel as if you are not making the grades you should be.
Tenacity, Teens, and Test-Taking
An assessment test such as the TCAP represents only a snapshot of what you have learned at a specific moment in time. The results are not the sum total of your intelligence.
Easter, Enjoyment, and Energy
Remember those around you who may not have anyone to spend the holiday with on Sunday. Consider asking someone over for dinner or meeting a single friend for a movie. Just letting people know that someone cares about them can mean the world to them.
How to Declutter Without Feeling Overwhelmed
It is always the right time to clean out unwanted items, whether clothing, kitchen utensils, or any random furniture. But where do you start? I’m glad you asked.
Hold onto the Happiest Parenting Moments
If you are intentional and hang onto the good times when funny things happen that make you belly laugh, those memories can help get you through the moments when you feel like giving up.
Celebrate National Reading Month
Reading can lead you to imagine fantastic fantasy, follow along with a crime that needs to be solved, or get acquainted with characters who are growing into the type of person they most want to be.
How to Plan for Home or Vehicle Emergencies
In the trunk, use a large bag or plastic crate to store a blanket (reflective, if you have one) as well as jumper cables, a flashlight, and a pair of heavy-duty gloves. I also recommend that you pack a separate bag of snacks and water in case you break down.
Ease the Effects of That Lost Hour of Sleep
Every spring we lose an hour of sleep, and this small change can throw many people (especially children) surprisingly off-track.
Aspirations, Accomplishments, and Appreciation
Have a great weekend. Remember, you are most awesome, and YOU ROCK!
National Women’s History Month Begins Today
Learning about women’s history is important for both young men and women as the fight for gender equality continues around the world.
How to Face the “Paralysis of Analysis”
Consider doing the Benjamin Franklin method of making important decisions: create a pros and cons list, and whichever column makes the most sense is your result.
World Day of Social Justice
Learning about the hardships that others face helps those of us with privilege and power learn what is going on and how we can make a difference.
How to Recognize (and Recover from) Mental Exhaustion
Weather is an important factor in my topic today: mental exhaustion. We have hit that time in winter that makes us all groan in one way or another.
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Fill Your Space With Value on Valentine’s Day (and Every Day)
This week I want to cover the idea of decluttering your personal space—not only in the sense of physical clutter, but also in terms of surrounding yourself with the wrong people and/or thoughts.
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Ways to Outwit Unpredictable Weather
Whenever it’s cold, be sure to carry a jacket or coat with you in case your vehicle breaks down.
International Day of Women and Girls in Science
In addition to promoting full and equal access for women and girls to participate in science, the day is also a great time to recognize the role that women and girls play in science and technology.
What You Need to Know as a New Employee
Getting a job is one of the best decisions that I made during my high school years—a decision that hopefully you will make, too.
How (and Why) to Turn an Acquaintance into a Friend
You will never know how much it means to someone who is lonely when you take a genuine interest in them. You can make a person who feels worthless suddenly feel they are worthwhile.
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Teen Workshop: Your Financial Future
In this recent workshop for RiseUP Cooperative, Garry Thurman and Tyde McIntosh discuss how to avoid making financial decisions that will one day bring you grief. Garry and Tyde both work at Guardian Investment Advisors in Chattanooga and are hosts of the podcast “Plan Today Own Tomorrow.”
Figuring Out Who You Are
Trying new things during your teenage years is not only normal, but also really important in helping you strengthen your sense of self.
Taking Stock of Your Distinctive Qualities
I cannot compare my achievements (or perceived lack of them) to others, and you shouldn’t either. We can have the same situational experience but take away totally different internal realizations.
Relaxation, Reality, and Resolutions
With either a traditional vacation or a staycation, you can schedule a time to unplug from technology, engage in the hobbies you keep telling yourself you want to do more, or take LOTS of naps. (I personally encourage you to do that.)
Focusing, Fixing, and Moving Forward
I am suggesting this in place of resolutions because if we focus too much on what we want to “fix” about ourselves, we forget about the good things about us we already have.
Pets, Pizzazz, and Permission
If you find yourself feeling a little droopy, you are just fine. Give yourself permission to need a break from others.
Win-Win Strategies for Resolving Holiday Conflicts
The good news is that conflict can be healthy, if handled correctly. It can help us affirm our beliefs, realize our faults, and become more empathetic people.
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Conquerors, Critics, and Custodians
Negativity can chip away at our peace of mind and possibly even our confidence in what we do. It can also get to the point of impeding our ability and desire to do our best.
Teen Workshop: Interviewing Skills
The presenter, Sam Turnipseed, talked about a lot of things that I experienced during my very first job interview.
Like a Dog With a Rope
A young person getting upset about not getting what he or she wants is no more abnormal than a dog dangling a rope. Adults don’t need to pick up the rope and fight it out.
The Inestimable Value of Volunteerism
This week I want to give a shout-out to the teachers who are having their annual Christmas concerts: orchestra, band, and choral. They have worked for weeks to prepare so their students can show off their musical ability.
How (and Why) to Revive Family Dinners
More often than not, the choice to stay away from the dinner table is made with little to no thought.
What We Have Vs. What We Have Not
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not. Remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” –Epicurus
What Kind of “Tator” Are You?
I want to use a Thanksgiving meal favorite to illustrate an important concept…being yourself in this crazy world.
Tell Our Veterans That You Value Their Valor!
All of us could send text messages or emails to members (or friends) of the family who have served in the military and say how much we appreciate their contributions to the safety and security of our nation.
Work for Your Money, Then Make Sure It Works for You
If you don’t have the money for a particular thing, do not buy it. People get into debt (and trouble) when they spend money they don’t have.
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Ghosts, Ghouls, and Gratitude
I am thankful for the opportunity to write to you every week, and I hope you will have a great weekend and a safe Halloween.
How to Overcome Fear and Seize Opportunities
Just keep your head up and your eyes open. Something good might be about to come your way.
Autumn, Anniversaries, and Adventures
JOKE OF THE WEEK: Why did the pumpkin lose the boxing match?
He let his gourd down.
Ways to Slow Down, Let Loose, and Get Organized
With the cooler weather, this is a great time to put away your tank tops, shorts, and sandals and to bring out your sweaters and hoodies.
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September, a Stadium, and Your Smile
The world is negative by nature. Let’s interject a bit of optimism, “wear a cheerful countenance at all times, and give every living creature you meet a smile.”
A Better Perspective on Wins and Losses
I hope this week has been good to you. As you know, with this time of year comes FOOTBALL TIME in Tennessee.
A Club, a Comedy, and a Commercial
Although they were talking about fast food, the message is still valid in broader way…
Look for the Magic in New Beginnings
No matter what new beginning may pop up in your life, I hope you face it with your head held high and a determination to do your best.
How to Survive When Receiving Harsh Criticism
I must admit that when I read the negative review, it just about killed me. Then I put it into perspective…
How to Cope With a Looming Health Crisis
Any time you think something is off-kilter within your body, you need to listen to yourself. It is better to go to the doctor and find out it’s nothing than to ignore the issue and later realize it’s serious.
Cruising, College, and Carpe Diem
The next few weeks will be a great time to reconnect with your friends who were not easy to communicate with during the summer. It is also a wonderful time to meet new people.
Dreams, Doubts, and Dance Parties
As the new school year begins, whether you are in high school or will pursue higher learning in a trade school, community college, or university, don’t be afraid to make time to do something fun.
Yes, It’s Perfectly OK to Have Relationship Questions
Dating is how you get to know different types of people to see if they are compatible with you. So, don’t think you must have all of the answers now.
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Learn to Keep Your Wits When Things Go Wrong
Murphy’s Law definitely contains an element of truth. How you respond to situations that are not ideal (and certainly not planned) will determine how you get through them.
Make Safety a Top Priority as You Celebrate
I’m deeply grateful for the vigilance of trained lifeguards. They do a great job of keeping those water-crazy people of all ages safe as they have fun every day.
What to Do When You’re Busy as Can Be
I have to say that for me, this week has been a challenge. I think I have too many things going on.
Celebrate Time With the Person You Call “Dad”
Fathers don’t need to be blood related. They just must love you, accept you as you are, and encourage you to shoot for your dreams.
Thoughts on Connection and Action
We need to do the “next right thing.” I believe that we as a people want to do better as soon as we know better.
Why Our Failures Are Just as Important as Our Successes
We need to calmly pick up the pieces of our “bad day” and know that we can make the proverbial lemonade out of lemons.
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How to Pursue True Freedom
While military life isn’t for everyone, I want to thank not only the servicemen and women in our country, but also their families. They make many sacrifices when their loved ones are not home.
How to Avoid Feeling Isolated This Summer
Since it is the end of the school year, this week I want to encourage you to pick one or two friends—fellow students, or just acquaintances—and commit to reaching out to them over the summer.
Musings on Mothers and Motherhood
Your mom will always be your mother, no matter how many other mother figures you have in your life. As a mother myself, I can testify that raising children is not for the faint-hearted.
How to Make the Most of Your Last School Days
I hope you’ll savor the last bit of school year with your friends and teachers. I will certainly miss my colleagues and the students over the summer.
Thoughts on Renewal and Change
If you have things in your life that you want to change, focus on only one at a time. If you try to change too many things at once, any failure to meet the desired outcome will cause frustration.
What Baseball Teaches Me About Life
Of all the spectator sports, I love baseball the best. It’s interesting, I understand it, and I know how many players are on each team and what they do.
Strategies for Building Service in Communities
With a smartphone and a connection to the internet, more people can access therapists from the comfort of their homes.
How to Find the Courage to Stand Alone
We all have things we do because we want to fit in with our peers, but then there is a part of us that yearns to be different. We long to do that one thing to make us stand above the others.
Pursue Only What You Actually Want
Don’t take on things that you don’t believe you need to be doing. It does great harm to your body, mind, and even your emotional well-being.
What to Do If You’re Sleep-Deprived
Does your child have trouble falling asleep and sleeping through the night? Do your kids’ sleep issues keep you from getting the rest you need to function well?
Learn to Use Time Well as You Accomplish Your Goals
Learn how making lists and setting priorities can help us become as effective with our time as possible and feel great as we complete important tasks.
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Is It Possible to Intentionally Increase Confidence?
When you think of a superhero, the attributes of confidence, success, and accomplishments come to mind. This has a lot to do with the way they present themselves.
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How to Find the Courage to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
You may be intrigued by a field of study that is exciting but also scary to you. Don’t hold yourself back from an opportunity just because of fear.
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Experience “Magic” as You Make Your Dreams Come True
Your dreams motivate you to get out there and make a difference in the world. You’ve got this.
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Why We Need to Stop Bullying
No one deserves ridicule for thinking for themselves. … We should be encouraging one another, not tearing each other down.
How to Become Fluent in Body Language
We know that effective communication combines both verbal and nonverbal aspects. Sometimes our body language can send signals that conflict with the words we say out loud.
What to Do on Days Filled With Doubt
Lately, I keep having thoughts that we shouldn’t have said “yes,” and that if we hadn’t become foster parents, then things would be different, calmer, and more peaceful. I wouldn’t lose my cool ALL of the time.
How to Correct a Wrong Definition of Success
Even if, like me, you see areas where you feel like you are failing, be sure to acknowledge your success and not just your failures.
How to Deal with the Challenges of a Blended Family
I want to encourage you to take a look at the family that surrounds you. Each person is special and has a great deal to contribute.
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Tips for Navigating an Adventurous Life
Whatever you are working toward, I wish you much luck and hope the journey brings you satisfaction.
Passion, Procrastination, and Positive Results
2021 has taught me to never give up on my dreams, no matter what they are or what others think about them.
Confidence, Coffee, and Christmas Presence
I hope the holiday will be a good one for you, and more than any present you receive, know that YOU are the gift the world needs.
Talents, a Train, and Trauma Survivors
No matter how you express it, you were created with a special something that makes you truly unique. When you figure out what that talent is and use it to make yourself and others happy, you are fulfilling your purpose.
Snowmen, Scrooge, and Self-Reliance
This week I want to talk about becoming self-reliant, which means doing as many things for yourself—by yourself—as possible…
Independence
Even though his mother declined his request to go overnight with his peers, he walked away from the conversation with confidence. Knowing what he could do to make the request a reality, he overcame his anxiety of asking for independence.
Adoptions, Apartments, and Alphabets
We should never stop dreaming, and we need to give ourselves permission to shoot for the moon.
Pet Names, Peers, and Podcasts
Max is one of the most popular names for a male pet, and I have lobbied to name several of our animals Max, only to be outvoted. So, what did I do?
Stop the Bleed
Unfortunately, people can end up bleeding in a lot of situations—whether a car accident, a mass shooting, or a knife injury in the kitchen. If more people knew how to respond to these situations, many lives could be saved…
Thanksgiving, Turkeys, and Tall Tales
This week I want to encourage you to be thankful for the people in your life. When Thanksgiving Day comes and you gather with friends or family, hug those around you one more time. Listen to the familiar stories one more time.
Soldiers, Scars, and Self-Confidence
Be confident in who you are and what you can accomplish, but also know that your self-esteem isn’t tied to your present belief about yourself.
Contentment, the Container Challenge, and a Cautionary Tale
The older I get, the more I realize that I don’t need things. I’d rather have experiences with people, and I want to make sure they know that I appreciate them and am thankful for their presence in my life.
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Fall Festivities, Funny Guys, and Fear of Failure
We have finally made it to that long-awaited October holiday, Halloween. Sunday night is sure to be a lot of fun. I hope your family enjoys the traditions you’ve created for this fall celebration.
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Autumn, Anger, and Advocacy
The wisdom I wish to impart to you this week is about advocating for your own health needs. … You know your own body, and it’s important to speak up if something seems abnormal.
Gas Stations, Greed, and a Getaway Vehicle
My “tank empty” warning light came on 13 miles from the next turn of my trip, where I knew for certain I could find fuel. I had no idea if I had enough reserve gas in the tank to make it to the closest gas station…
Hot Drinks, Halloween, and Helping Others
What I want you to see is that if everyone in the world would pick just ONE THING that matters to them and then would step in and help, the world would be a kinder place.
How to Protect Yourself from Physical Danger
(The presenter for this teen workshop was Lieutenant Daniel Francis, who has been working for 15 years in the Chattanooga Police Department. He is also an instructor for basic self-defense.) The very best way to protect your personal safety is to develop the following four strategies: (1) risk awareness, (2) risk reduction, (3) risk recognition, and (4)
How to Talk So Others Will Listen
The way we communicate is very important, because it gives other people one of their first impressions of us and is a key tool for building healthy relationships. Our communication skills demonstrate the level of respect we have for ourselves, our friends, our family, and others we meet.
Planning, Pacing, and Projects
This is the time of year when a person is at great risk of being overcommitted. I want to encourage you to either use the calendar in your phone or a physical planner and block out dates for fun activities, as well as time for just taking care of you.
Potential, Perseverance, and Power
The teen years are among the most challenging in life, because you feel pressed from all sides to know “right now” who you are and what you want to become.
Personal Risk Management Insurance 101
(In our teen workshop on personal risk management, Nick Bosco explained the often-confusing lingo of insurance policies and premiums. With prior careers in engineering and telecommunications, he says that owning a Farmers Insurance agency in Chattanooga for the past seven years is the most rewarding job he’s ever had.)
Fitness, Family, and Focus
Why is it that I can imagine myself exercising to be more healthy…but NEVER do it? If I were to put as much energy into walking my dogs as I do writing my next scene, I would be much farther ahead in my weight loss goals.
Invisibility, Individuality, and Influence
You want to surround yourselves with people who don’t always think like you, but instead challenge you to be your better self. You also want to be strong enough in your own thoughts and opinions that others don’t bowl you over and keep you from your own individuality.
How to Deal With Emotions That Can Lead to Self-Harm and Suicide
(This is a recap of an interactive teen workshop by Arianne Brigner, LPC-MHSP, who provides comprehensive Dialectical Behavior Therapy to teens and adults in the Chattanooga area. A therapist for 17 years, she loves to help clients learn to tolerate uncomfortable emotions that can lead to self-harm, drinking, drugs, suicide, and other impulsive behaviors.) Learning to deal
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Opportunities, Obligations, and Overcommitment
Happy Friday, RISERS! This is a holiday weekend, so I hope you’ll find a bit of rest from your labors. I have been very blessed to be able to do work that I enjoy. It still gets challenging from time to time, but that’s okay, because if we never had any challenges with our jobs,
Action, Aromas, and Accomplishment
Now, with Fall quickly approaching, it’s a great time to put good intentions into action. Let’s get outside and ENJOY!
ADULT WORKSHOP: Preparing Your Child for a Successful School Year
This adult workshop shares practical ways to help your child(ren) have a successful school year. Most foster kids are behind in school due to the trauma they have experienced, and COVID-19 has compounded these issues. Try these 25 simple strategies to help your teens become the best they can be.
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Dreams, Decisions, and Damsels in Distress
Many of you are trying to decide what career field to go into as you get ready to graduate from high school and move to college. Don’t believe anyone who tries to tell you that you aren’t supposed to enjoy your career, or that you’ll be stuck in a dull nine-to-five existence and hate it…
Changes, Challenges, and Choices
It doesn’t seem possible that we are almost to the middle of August already. Next comes the beginning of high school and college football games, falling leaves, and cooler weather…
Brain Architecture: Building Strong Foundations and Responding to Trauma
Early experiences literally shape how the brain gets built, establishing either a sturdy or a fragile foundation for the development and behavior that follows. A strong foundation in the early years increases the probability of positive outcomes. Learn about how this may affect you and how you can help make your brain stronger.
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Possibilities
What doors can we open, if we open the door for creativity and chasing our dreams? Hope. People living instead of just existing…
Delight, Debate, and a Droid
Happy Friday, RISERS! I hope that this week has been good to you and that you’ll have a safe, enjoyable weekend. Sleep in late…take a nap…eat one treat that makes you happy.
Teach Your Children Well
In this parent workshop, Love’s Arm advocacy team members Mimi Nikkel and Brandon Culpepper addressed the important topic of sex trafficking. They shared how parents can recognize the signs of human trafficking, help their children establish a healthy sexual identity, and teach their kids SMARTS.
Baseball, a Book, and Back-to-School
I hope you have made the most of your summer vacation, and if you are going back to school, I hope it will be your best year yet. With the weekend almost here, just sit back and relax and do that one thing that makes you happy.
Unleash Your Potential
What are your capabilities? What is that fire in you dying to escape? Everyone has a great amount of potential, and so many hold it back.
Help and Hope for People With Addiction
The following recap highlights a teen workshop presented by Kimberly W. Cohen of New Season addiction and recovery center. She has worked with families since 2001, addressing issues such as teen addiction, trauma, suicide, loss of family, and foster care placement. She is also the mother of five children and five grandchildren.
Risks, Rewards, and Relaxation
You must take some risks to get the huge rewards, but don’t be afraid to try. Sometimes the most awesome things come from that one moment of bravery where you dare to do something you’ve never done before.
Strengthening Your Brain
A healthy brain can solve problems, feel happy, be creative, and improve the overall health of the body. To keep your brain healthy, you need three basic things: oxygen, nutrients, and practice.
Peace, Passion, and Potential
The movie I want to recommend this week is Racing Stripes. Yes, that is the story about a zebra who thinks he’s a horse. This movie is special because…
Fridays, Friendship, and the Future
While this world is crazy, be sure to be intentional with your work, your friends, and above all, yourself. Don’t get caught up in the “have-tos” of your daily life. …
Never Too Busy to Parent
Over the years in my counseling practice, I noticed that the majority of teenagers would refuse to tell their parents about their innermost feelings. The thought of having to express themselves after experiencing depression, bullying, loneliness, suicide, or sadness felt overwhelming. As one teenager explained, “it seems to be too much of a hassle” to
Fear: Darkness vs. Light
People fear what they lack understanding of, because it is unknown territory. People fear the unknown more than anything and usually try to stick with things they know, because it is comfortable and predictable with a safety net.
Straight Talk about Sex Trafficking: Hot’s NOT Cool
(In this teen workshop, Love’s Arm advocacy team members Mimi Nikkel and Brandon Culpepper addressed the important topic of sex trafficking. In the process of explaining how to be safe online and protect yourself against predators, they discussed five different subjects: who you are, what you like, “no” is a good word, sex does not define you, and stupid smartphones.)
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Friday, Fireworks, and the Fourth of July
Happy Friday, RISERS! I can’t believe we are heading into a holiday weekend. Sunday is the Fourth of July, and that means…
Own the Beauty in You
Good and bad people don’t really exist. We are all both good and bad, because we are human. You can’t know good without the bad, and vice versa; you must choose based on the desires of your heart and what you truly want.
Writing—for Academics and Life
(This recap features Denise Johnson, a high school English teacher who led a teen workshop on writing.)
Our Children, Our Future
When you impact the life of a child in a positive or negative way, you are creating the hearts, hands, voices, and minds of tomorrow. Do you want to leave a lasting impression on this Earth that is positive or negative?
Fridays, Fun, and Foster Care
Happy Friday, RISERS! I want to thank you for the opportunity to interact with you and look forward to catching you right here every week.
13 Qualities All Good Babysitters Share
(This workshop recap features advice from Jessica Perkins, a preschool worker—who has been in the education system for as long as she can remember—and a mom of four.) Babysitting may seem like it’s all “fun and games,” but the job includes more responsibilities than you might think. I want to share a dozen and one
DREAM
What would I tell my teenage self? Dream bigger. Shoot higher. Shine brighter. Embrace being different, unique, and special. Own the beauty in you. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the belief that something else is more important than that fear. Chase your dreams!! The only true failure is never trying at all.
5 Ways to Improve Family Interactions
(This recap is from a parent workshop by Cara Morales, who works with teens, couples, and families in difficult seasons of life, such as divorce or bereavement. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, professional clinical counselor, and parenting coach who has worked extensively to help high school students overcome depression, anxiety, self-harm behaviors,
Time Management
(This workshop recap is from a recent teen workshop by Robin Turnipseed, a former high school teacher who is now a mother of two, a writer, and the owner of Placementofprettythings.com. She shared several useful tips and tricks on managing time—and self—and how this can lead to a more successful life.)
Conflict Resolution
Keep these tips in mind to help you work toward resolution when confronted with conflict!
How Adoption Changed My Life
Mami’s life has shown me how great an impact one person can have regardless of age, race, or income.
Internet Safety For Teens
The internet can be used for good, like sharing creative things like your artwork,
writing, etc. but keeping in mind the darker things about it and staying safe with the information you share to other people.
Tennessee Fosters Hope
Yes, it’s hard but we can do
hard things. You’ve done hard things before too.
Computers 101
The best thing about online work is that it is easy to stay organized and to have what you need when you need it.
Shepherds for our Children
We are excited to share this recap of a recent Parent Workshop we hosted, led by the Shepherds of Men!
Tips for Public Speaking
Public speaking is something that makes many people nervous, but it helps us improve our communication skills, interview for jobs, stand up to bullies, and even increase our self-esteem!
How To Supercharge Your Motivation Every Day
These ideas may be simple, but they’re profound. Put these to work in your own life and
watch the success appear before you!
Keeping Our Kids Safe Online
It can be scary to think about just how easily our children might encounter predators online.
Your Child’s Biggest Cheerleader
Your words can bring your children life and strength during these perilous times.
Accountability For Students During COVID-19
Students are not receiving the accountability and support they are used to. Couple this with the stress that students are facing and this combination makes it even harder for them to learn.
Budget Tips For Teens
Thinking about budgeting and saving money can be overwhelming, so we have gathered our favorite budget tips to get you started!
The Challenges Teens Are Facing During COVID-19
While everyone has been impacted by Covid-19, students have taken an especially hard hit with the loss of routine, peer interaction, educational opportunity, and social milestones.
Rising to the Challenge
Life since we choose to foster and adopt has been just like we expected….. Said no foster or adoptive parent ever!
Into the Depths
The moment we told that someone to place our home study on these children, we knew we would be delving into the depths of the sea with them, because giving up on them was not an option.
