Navigating Stressful Situations During the Holidays

Thanksgiving can be a great time, but it can also be incredibly stressful. From planning to social anxiety, it can be overwhelming to protect our mental health. So here are a few tips for navigating the stress of Thanksgiving.

Number One: Set Boundaries in Social Situations

For some reason, when we gather with our loved ones, conversations sometimes take a sharp turn for the worse. This year, remember that it’s okay to say “no” or tell someone that you don’t want to talk about something. Whether it be a conversation about the state of the world or your future plans, you aren’t obligated to engage.

If you feel too anxious to set a boundary verbally, you can also redirect the conversation. Change the subject or flat out say, “Let’s discuss something else.” It’s one of the best ways to keep your peace over the holidays.

Number Two: Take a Break

Don’t feel like you can’t step away and take a moment for yourself. Even if it’s just a trip to the bathroom or stepping outside, taking a moment to breathe can do us a lot of good. You can’t control how other people act, but you can take the space to regulate your own emotions and thoughts.

Number Three: Prepare Neutral Conversations

Gathering with family or friends? Ask about what they’ve been doing for fun. Instead of trying to probe about future plans or thoughts on the world, show a genuine interest in what they are currently doing. When we establish a common ground, it’s a lot less stressful to engage in dinner conversation.

Number Four: Plan for Food and Money Anxiety

In the coming week, if you struggle with food anxiety or the idea of spending money, come up with a plan. Set a limit for holiday spending and have someone keep you accountable. Bring some safe foods with you. Social eating and holidays that surround spending can cause immense anxiety, and having both a written plan and someone to lean on for support can greatly lessen that anxiety.

Number Five: Be Grateful

When it feels hard to find the good and fight off the holiday stress, remember the things that you have in your life. Whether it's family, friends, or simply the fact that you’re alive, hold on to the things that bring you joy.

What are you grateful for this year? Or even just this week? I’d love to read your comments.